When you declare your independence from any person or any thing, recognize that doing so is a beginning and not an end. It is not a one-time decision; rather it is a commitment that will require daily — and sometimes moment-to-moment — recommitment. It is a powerful statement of determined intent and not a guarantee of outcome. In order to be successful at declaring your independence from something, you must be willing to challenge your self-defeating, self-flagellating, and self-hateful, beliefs…